You want a conversation but to avoid all the why?
So you don't want conversation?
US/NATO IS closer to Russian border every year with OFFENSIVE weapons, so don't play a child and say that R Ukraine crisis is one made only by Russia.
Just imagine Russia deploying offensive weapons in Mexico or Cuba and be like "chill bro, we are just having a vacation at our friends house".
I don't support the war/invasion, but the situation is not black and white and Ukraine has a major issue with its own fascism as well (besides all the US politics around it).